What should you expect in your first therapy session?

Starting therapy for the first time can be daunting. However, it can be one of the most meaningful investments you can make in your wellbeing. Often the first few sessions can cause us to feel discomfort, frustration, anger and even sadness. Many people often give up in the early weeks, often because they weren’t aware of what the process actually involves. The tough truth about therapy is that it may often feel worse before it feels better. Throughout the years we may have pushed things away or packed them into a “little box, with a neat ribbon tied around it, and put them high onto a shelf” and when we slow unpack these thoughts and feelings, it can at times be overwhelming and exhausting. The temporary feelings of anger or sadness and generally feeling irritable, are signs that therapy is working. You are finally accessing material that matters.  It can be helpful mentioning to your therapist that you feel irritable, angry or challenged. This could be valuable exploring with your therapist. 

Remember, that building trust also takes time. The first few sessions are about the therapist and client getting to know each other. Often the therapist will enquire about your family history, and the main things you might want to explore in the sessions. Sometimes it can take a while to feel as though you can open up. Trust is not instant. Particularly if you have had past experiences which have affected your capacity to be vulnerable. Sometimes it takes months before you feel able to let your guard down and be your true self. This is completely normal and a good therapist will understand the need to slowly build trust. The relationship holds and supports all that follows.